My Femdom Relationship

I love to read the various blogs from submissive men that have appeared over the last couple of years. They are all looking for something. For some of them, the idea of submitting to a women is just a fantasy. There are others that really want the life of serving a female head of house.

One of my favorite blogs is 'whatever she says'. In the profile, the writer states that in his opinion most marriages are female led. I agree with this statement. He goes on to say, however, that the difference in his marriage, or a true WLM, is that the guy has acknowledged the wife's authority, and she has formally accepted her role as head of the house.

For a great many couples the 'fem/dom' relationship never develops beyond a game. If they enjoy it, if it helps them meet their every day needs, there is nothing wrong with this. For many couples there is a need to go beyond the role playing or the game type relationship. For some men, such as Jack, there is deep seeded need to live under the authority a women.

One of the mistakes I made with Jack is spending too much time 'watching' him, and too little time 'watching over' him.  When Jack first came back to the house, I set up an elaborate system of controls. I wanted to make sure I knew where Jack was at all times. He was not allowed to leave the house without permission, never at night unless accompanied, and he had no access to money. The accounts; checking, savings, and credit cards were all put in my name.

There is something about locking a man in a cage that brings out the emotions in people. For any women who wants to, or feels the need to establish a true 'fem/dom' marriage, the kennel is a wonderful tool. From my experience with Jack, there are other things that can work almost as well, but nothing has quite the same effect as the kennel.

There are some conversations that you will remember all of your life. There are some events that I will never forget. Finding the panties in Jack's gym bag five years ago was one of those events that will stay with me forever.

 To have an understanding of the couple that Jack and I have evolved into, it is important to understand the impression this unique young woman Kimberly had on me. Some people reading this blog may wonder if Kimberly and I eventually became friends. The answer is no. We are different types of people.

For any relationship to work, each of the participants must have some responsibilities. They must have a certain role. In our marriage, Jack and I had a relationship, and in the twenty plus years we had been married those responsibilities were well defined. We didn't need to talk about our mutual roles, because it was just there. We knew how to act with each other. We knew what to expect from each other. It was very comfortable, just like an old shoe.

While sub men find it humiliating to wear panties, they also find it exciting.  It is not so much the way panties feel on a man, but the way they make a man feel when he is wearing then. In Jack's case they definitely make him feel more submissive. He doesn't know the why of it, he just knows the result.

It all started when I wanted to do my husband Jack’s laundry. In his gym bag, I found a bunch of panties... for all I knew, they weren’t mine. I had no idea whose they were, but when he came home I asked him. It ended in a total breakdown, and finally, he admitted having visited a dominatrix. I had no idea what that even meant.