The Beginning Of Our FemDom Relationship - Part 1

It all started when I wanted to do my husband Jack’s laundry.

In his gym bag, I found a bunch of panties... for all I knew, they weren’t mine. I had no idea whose they were, but when he came home I asked him. It ended in a total breakdown, and finally, he admitted having visited a dominatrix. I had no idea what that even meant.

But I felt totally betrayed. I felt that the relationship with my husband had been violated. How could he do this? His first reaction made me even angrier. He defended himself by saying it was not like seeing a prostitute. He did not have sex with that women. Where have we heard that line before? When he told me that, I just exploded, and told him to leave the house. If he couldn't understand why I was so angry, I didn't want him anywhere around. He just couldn't understand that I was angry with him for having a relationship with another woman.

When Jack left the house, he went to stay with his sister. 

She was very curious, but just assumed we had a bad fight about something or other. Jack's sister has been one of my best friends for many years. We were in the same dormitory in college. She is the one that introduced me to Jack. We share a lot, but I was not in a mood to tell her what had happened. At that point in time I wasn't sure what had happened myself, except that I didn't want Jack in my bed or in my house.  Over the next few days Jack called the house every evening asking for a chance to talk. I told him that I just didn't want him in the house. A week later we agreed to meet at a nearby coffee shop. I listened to what he had to say. He talked about his need to submit to a strong woman, and a little bit about his cross-dressing fantasies. I told him he was pervert, and I was not really interested in what he had to say. The truth is that I was mad at Jack, but I never stopped loving him.

That evening I went home and got on the intent. 

I think I started by googling 'submissive man'. The porn that came up was terrible, but I worked my way through a lot of trash to find some valuable information on dominance and submission. The thing that impressed me was the amount of information. It occurred to me that maybe there are a lot of submissive men in the world. If so, may be my little guy was not such a freak of nature as originally thought. Over the next several days, I downloaded some books, looked at magazines, and even got on a couple of on line forums. It was interesting. It was like uncovering a husband that I never really knew I had.

After thinking about everything that had happened, I could accept the idea that Jack was submissive. 

As a Christian, I have always had the feeling that God made us the way he wanted us to be. I have always felt that we should accept people the way they were if it did not harm anyone else. When I was younger, a male cousin announced to the world that he was gay. Many members of his extended family wanted nothing more to do with him. As a liberal college student, I went to his defense. I told my parents that god is the one that made him the way he was, and it was up to us to accept that. Today, being gay is no big deal, but that many years ago. Anyway, the experience with my cousin made me think about Jack. If I could accept a cousin that was gay, what was wrong with accepting a husband that was submissive. I thought maybe I can accept this submissive business, but I cannot accept a husband paying money to see some one that is almost the same as a prostitute. In my eyes, this dominatrix was like a prostitute. I needed to understand this. Who was this women that had a relationship with my husband? What was her hold on my husband? Why was he willing to pay her money? I called Jack, and told him that I wanted her name and phone number.

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